British men dating habits
We sold “The Traditional British Kit.” Only Brits wear pink socks with red dots on them, paired with a pink shirt and a green tweed jacket with a pink checkered pattern. If they take the piss, they mean they are mocking/making fun of something. And when you get home, after pulling off your wellies (Wellingtons, that is) you put on the kettle for a strengthening cup of tea, naturally. Use The Kingsmen as reference if you do not believe me. In fact, just apologize to everyone and you will be ever so British.
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I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.
The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.
I prefer the UK version which was, when I was there: Get drinks, get complimented randomly by cute boy. Meet boy for brunchy things Go home Make decision after.
Versus going to bars, scoping out prey, meeting for drinks then getting passive-aggressive emails. I believe you happened upon one very specific type of NY girl at this dinner Birds of a feather, darling.
Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
It might also be that you randomly passed a British bloke in the street and heard that accent and swooned. Even when Taron Egerton spoke with an East London accent. Friends of friends would meet at social gatherings and sooner or later there’d be a party where they’d get it on.
American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.
The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.
We girls do need to know what we want, and realize that when we’re not getting it, it’s time to move on. Here is what I find about dating in London (though maybe all of the UK is like this too, I hope not).
Here is what I learned in my years as a single girl in London: They don’t get dating in England.
If a bumbling buffoon like Hugh Grant could steal Julia Roberts' heart in It was the summer of 2006 when I first landed in New York as a 19-year-old, laden with warnings about American girls: they're high maintenance, my friends told me.